DISCLAIMER: This article is extremely sensitive and deals with matters such as rape and suicide. We encourage that if you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar to the experiences below PLEASE seek help. Confide in a family member, attend events that highlight and bring awareness to anything you’re going through or been through and please remember that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Jasmine Murray is the epitome of a BOSS. From her charisma to her passion, she is a real go getter! Jasmine recently opened up her own PR firm and held her first event, Cupcakes and Convos.
During her undergrad at Spelman, she co-founded an organization, Survivor at Spelman, to educate the AUC about sexual abuse. After graduating she still wanted to give back by educating and uplifting women so she decided to create Cupcakes and Convos. We sat down with Jasmine to discuss her event, business and Sky from Black Ink Crew!
What motivated you to create Cupcakes and Convos?
“Four years ago, while still in high school, I was raped. At Spelman, my friend Megan and I, came up with Survivor at Spelman, an organization which was focused on educating people about sexual abuse. We had an annual event called ‘Breaking the Silence.’ It was an intimate space where people could come talk about their experience, cry, and feel in a place we felt was a safe space. It was very eye opening and really emotional and I think we definitely made our footprint in the AUC. People came forward who probably never thought they would. It was definitely necessary. Since then I’ve graduated and wanted to still create an intimate space for women.”
How did Survivor at Spelman grow you as a person?
“When we started it, I was Vice President and Megan was President. Megan being one year older eventually graduated. But prior to her leaving I had never really said what had really happened to me. People knew obviously something happened but never knew any details. After Megan graduated, I knew I had to step up and take on the President’s role. I couldn’t preach to people on how they should come forward and talk when I myself had not shared my story. This forced me to mature and start my journey coping and healing. I knew I had to take on the role as a mentor.”
How did the Cupcakes portion come about?
“SweetTalk by Lo, does a monthly event for mental awareness where people come decorate a cupcake to explain why their still so sweet. Originally we were partnered but separated on the partnership. I decided to keep the idea and incorporated it into the event.”
How did you come up with Jasmine Milan PR?
“While interning at The Garner Circle (whoo, whoo! Shameless plug!), I had people reaching out to me asking me to do PR for them. I started doing a bit of freelance outside of the internship. I began working at Bloomingdales in their PR department doing events and would do things for clients in between. I started having a lot of people reach out to me to do PR for them. It started becoming a time constraint once I was trying to juggle my job and my own business. I took a leap a faith by starting doing PR full time and it’s been going great.”
Where did you get your entrepreneurial spirit?
“My dad, he’s the one in the family who’s always owned a business. He’s one of the owners of Sweet Auburn Seafood & Lounge. I want to be just like him and make him proud. Owning a seafood restaurant is not my forte but doing PR is.”
How did Sky become the host of this event?
“I knew that I wanted a celebrity speaker for my event. I’m a fan of Black Ink Crew, I love all reality TV. I like Sky because she has a fun personality and lightens up the conversation and make it less tense. I wanted someone who has a voice and demands people to listen. I know that people would take the message from her if they weren’t taking it from me. I contacted her and she reached back, SHE was the one who replied. I wasn’t expecting to hear back directly from her. She was on board seeing that she has expanded to a motivational speaking.”
More about the event:
Cupcakes and Convos was amazing; from the host to the powerful stories it was hard not to hold back tears. It was a round table dialogue amongst attendees that focused on sexual abuse and suicide.
Prior to the event starting I noticed how BEAUTIFUL the women were in the room. They elegantly went to their seats, laughed, hugged and decorated their masterpieces/cupcakes. Sky got up and spoke about what all she’d been through and how she is still standing. It made me think about how far she really had come. When you see reality stars on TV you don’t really realize that their stories are real, some of these people come from nothing at all. She definitely lightened the mood by keeping it 100 with us about different things that occurred in her life and why she’s still sweet.
I was at awe by how gorgeous she was. She was dressed in a two piece that looked amazing on her body; that she reminded us was courtesy of Dr. Miami, lol. The biggest thing I noticed was Sky’s beauty… she’d been through hell and back, YET she’s still sweet, funny and enjoying her life.
This event was like no other. These beautiful women I saw, had some very sad experiences ranging from rape, domestic abuse and suicide attempts. One of the speakers reminded us that suicide has no face. You may see a person and think they have it all figured out, but just beneath the surface they may be going through so much more.
I was extremely emotional after this event and had to face reality on a lot of things that had gone on with me mentally over the past few years. I felt so moved by the fact that I was exactly where I needed to be during that event. I wrote an article on the effects of mental health in relationships a few months ago. I encourage you to check it out!